Mother’s Day is just around the corner, so you boys better get prepared. I don’t care if your wife told you that she doesn’t care and to not get her a gift this year, get her one any way. I’ll let you in on a little secret. She cares. I know she said she didn’t. I know she said it wasn’t a big deal. I know that in years past she has never seemed sad or disappointed when you actually listened and didn’t do anything. Trust me I get it, but the truth is no matter what the words are coming out of her mouth, she cares. Promise. So, do yourself and her a favor and get her a gift.
This list is very different from the flowers and chocolates you probably had dancing around in your head. This is a list of things that every mom, at least all us exhausted ones, would love getting. These aren’t physical gifts but what they all have in common is that they give us a break or make our job as a mom a little easier. So, if you had flowers and chocolates in your head as an idea, just throw it out now because we are digging a little deeper.
When I decided to make this list to help out men everywhere who are racking their brain to come up with an idea, my mind instantly went to gifts that give us moms a break. Moms work hard, like ridiculously hard, and for the most part a lot of what they do goes unnoticed.
If your wife or spouse is anything like me than you tend to not even notice all that you do either. She wakes up each day and the moment her feet hit the floor shes’ off running. Shes’ doing dishes, washing laundry, cleaning the house, running errands, meal prepping, getting the kids 5 trillion snacks a day, diffusing tantrum and fit after tantrum and fit, taking the kids to their lessons, and even trying to add in weekly activities or outings for the kids so they can make some memories.
She knows shes’ busy and exhausted at the end of each day, but she will just continue to keep doing the mom thing day in and day out. Well men, it’s about time she get a little break.
The same goes for working moms. They may get a break from the temper tantrums and the constant kid stuck to their leg, but I can bet you anything that every day while she is working she is thinking about her kids and worrying. Did I pack them enough snacks? Am I doing the right thing working and leaving them at daycare. What if something bad happens at daycare. Do my kids hate me for working.
While thinking all these thoughts shes’ also having to talk herself down so her anxiety doesn’t reach paper bag level in the middle of a work day. This in itself is completely exhausting, and these mamas deserve a break too.
Yes, you men work, and you work hard. I get it. I have told my husband time and time again that I would never want his job. Mainly because it’s dirty and gross since he has to crawl under people’s houses every day. If you’ve never looked under your house just take a second to go look and then imagine having to crawl in that every day.
Yeah gross I know. I can barely handle spiders much less all the other critters, dead and alive, that he comes in contact with on a daily basis. No thank you. With that being said, I will be the first to say that you men deserve a break too, but this isn’t your holiday. That comes next month so just hold onto your britchces. (Yes Im from Texas. Yes I just said britches. Now moving on.)
Now if you’re a man reading this post, you either found it on Pinterest in your search for the perfect gift for Mother’s Day, (I applaud you for trying and thinking ahead!) or your wife came across this post and sent you the link. Either way, Good job. Now if your wife or spouse sent you the link, for the love of Jesus and all things holy listen to the advice and pick something from this list and only this list. I promise you she didn’t send you this link for a laugh, this is really what she wants so just get it for her.
Women, sometimes the best thing you can do is to just tell your husband straight out what you want. This means, sending them this link is by all means not a bad idea. Honestly, they will just be thankful that they know exactly what to get you because you just took all the guess work out of the equation. Heck you could even send a number with the link so that way he knows exactly which gift out of this list you really want.
When my husband and I first started dating I had a birthday not even 2 months later. When it came time for gifts that boy blew me away. He got me multiple things but the three that I really remember where some throw pillows, the movie Beastly, and this really cool vintage looking journal. The reason these gifts blew me away was because I remember walking through the stores with him and nonchalantly pointing each of these items out. Not in a, “I’m dropping a major hint,” kind of way but in a, “oh these are cute, and I want to see this movie” kind of way.
I was blown away that he had made a mental note each and every time I said something and then went back and got me exactly what I wanted. Now as sweet and amazing as he was at giving gifts while we were dating and the first few years of our marriage, things have changed a lot after having kids. He is now working more hours than ever before, meaning he is physically exhausted each and every day. It takes the whole weekend to recoup from work and sometimes that isn’t even enough.
Since he is exhausted and we have kids this means that he forgets to listen and take note while walking through the store. Mainly because he’s trying to give the kids snacks, so I can shop and we can get what we need and leave before one of our kid’s tries for the greatest meltdown of all time.
When it comes to gift buying he probably feels a lot like a 4-year-old lost at Disney world; overwhelmed, stressed and completely out of place. So, even though we have only been together 8 years I have just started giving him a list or straight out telling him what I want. He likes gifts to be a surprise so he much prefers a list, that way he can pick and then build off of it so that the surprise factor isn’t a complete loss.
Ladies, it doesn’t matter if you have to help him out a little with the “getting a gift” thing, men (for the most part) appreciate the help. Plus you’re a hardworking, selfless, and caring mother who deserves a gift you want that will also give you a break or make your mom job a little bit easier. So lets dive in!
After carrying in 20 billion bags of groceries, picking up kids 13 million times, bending over to pick up the kids toys 17 trillion times, and being on our hands and knees cleaning the house, means our bodies hurt, a lot. I can promise you we will NEVER turn down a nice massage, EVER. This gift isn’t just a one-hour massage, but a full hour away from our kids. No tantrums, no getting the kids snacks, no messes to clean up, just 1 hour of peace and quiet.
If money is no problem and you really want to bless your wife get her a day at the spa. A day full of relaxing massages, pedicures, facials and more without one kid needing her or throwing a tantrum will make her feel beyond rejuvenated. This is my dream gift. *Cough Cough*
If you’ve never had a facial then you’re missing out, big time. It’s like a massage but for your face. Trust me, she will like it.
When you’re a mom most of the time your needs and self-care get neglected, which means that your wife’s hair hasn’t been cut or dyed in at-least a couple months, maybe even longer. Surprising her with a hair appointment, even if it’s just for a haircut, will make her feel like a new woman.
TIP: Make sure you schedule the appointment with her normal hair stylist. Don’t go rogue and just book with anyone. This would be a recipe for disaster. Ask any woman with a pulse.
Men, never underestimate the power of a nice relaxing pedicure. It may seem like just a foot massage and painted toe nails to you but I can promise you it’s so much more. Instead of me trying to explain why we love them so much, you should just go get one yourself. They aren’t just for woman, promise.
TIP: Ask her friends or your women coworkers where they get their pedicures because not all places are created equal so going off of references from other woman will ensure you book at a nice quality salon.
6.A Clean Home
Nothing is sexier for a mom than coming home to a clean house, that she DIDN’T have to clean. This gift may even be a two way street. If you wife doesn’t have a house to clean she will most likely not be so exhausted at the end of the day and bedtime may just have a little surprise in it for you. *wink wink* So, go hire a cleaning lady or if your budget is tight clean it yourself.
TIP: Clean Every Room! This includes dusting, vacuuming, picking up clutter, straightening shelfs, clearing off clutter from shelfs and counters, doing the dishes, and if you really want to bless her throw in a couple loads of laundry washed, dried, folded, and put away. If you hire a cleaning lady remember to pick up the house before she gets there. Put all the dirty clothes in laundry baskets, clear off any clutter, and pick up all the toys and shoes from the floor. Yes, you have to clean a little before the cleaning lady arrives. Don’t grump about it, just do it.
7.A Complete Honey-Do List
You know all those things your wife has been asking you to do lately? Yeah, the list that seems to just keep getting bigger? I know you’re busy. We all get it, but to really knock her socks off set aside time and start knocking things off that honey-do list.
TIP: Send her to get a pedicure or let her go shopping by herself that way you can get the honey-do list done and surprise her when she gets home.
8.Night Alone in a Hotel (NO OTHER HUMANS ALLOWED)
Yes, this even includes you. Your wife loves you dearly, but a night away from everyone is probably one of her biggest dreams. Not even joking.
TIP: To make her night away even more relaxing get her a basket full of her favorite snacks, a magazine, her favorite movie, a couple bath bombs, a DIY facial mask, some new pretty nail polish, cotton balls, nail polish remover, cozy socks, and maybe even a nice cozy robe.
TIP #2: DO NOT book her a night at a Motel 6 or something equivalent. Spend a little more and book at a nicer quality hotel. If you’re on a tight budget, you can check online for discounted rates or take the kids for a sleepover at the grandparents so your wife has the house to herself.
9.Get their Car Detailed
This isn’t relaxing like a spa day or pedicure but I can assure you that her car needs it and the fact that there are more cheerios and goldfish in her car than on aisle 6 of your local grocery store, kind of stresses her out. We know it stresses you out so in reality this is a gift that you will directly benefit from.
TIP: Stop commenting about how dirty her car is. Mostly because it’s ridiculously frustrating every time you say something and honestly it makes her want to throat punch you. Maybe that’s just me, but I can bet it stress her out when you throw in your comments and no mama wants or needs more stress in her life. Kids are messy, loud, and whinny so snacks are the only thing to keep them from throwing temper tantrums that could scary a Nazi soldier. So, for the love of all things holy, just bite your tongue and stop commenting about it. Please.
10.Take Something Off Their Plate
This will look different for every family since we all live different lives and have different schedules, but think about your wife and her day to day life. Is there something you know she hates doing or that stresses her out? Is there something that you could commit to taking on that would lighten her load as a mom and wife? Maybe it’s doing the dishes after dinner, starting a load of laundry before you go to work a couple days a week and then folding it and putting it away when you get home. Maybe it’s going grocery shopping, committing to cook dinner twice a week, or taking on the duty of giving the kids baths. Whatever it is just take it on. Not for the week of Mother’s Day but for the foreseeable future. Take it completely off her plate and don’t give it back.
TIP: If you decided to take something off her plate then do whatever you need to do in order to remember your commitment. This way your wife isn’t having to remind you every day or week. Set an alarm on your phone if you have to.
Motherhood is a great and wonderful gift but it’s also stressful, overwhelming, and flat out exhausting. I know I can’t speak for all women when I say this, but sometimes diamonds are not the answer. Shocking, I know, but it’s true. Sometimes, more like most of the time, the best gift for moms is the gift of relaxation or a lighter load.
So, this Mother’s Day make your wife’s year by giving her one of the gifts from the list above. If you’re on a tighter budget just get creative. Like I said earlier, if you can’t afford to get her car detailed or hire a cleaning lady, then put your cleaning gloves on and get to work. If you can’t afford to book a hotel room, see if you can take the kids and have a sleepover at Nana’s or one of your close friends so your wife has the house to herself. No matter what your budget is you can still give her the gift of relaxation with just a little creativity and ingenuity.
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