After my first pregnancy I thought I would be the woman who loved being pregnant since my first round was a breeze. My biggest complaint was that my sciatic nerve on my right side would hurt if I walked around too much during the day, but after just one good night’s rest I would wake up feeling 100% better.
I never had Braxton Hicks contractions, no false labor, no swollen feet, no varicose veins, or even stretch marks. Besides my random sciatic nerve pain and about two weeks and very mild morning sickness, my pregnancy was a dream.
At the time I felt bad or at least a little guilty for having such an easy pregnancy since my cousin was pregnant at the same time and she was having every problem under the sun. Not only was her pregnancy a nightmare, but her son had to stay in the NICU for some time after an emergency C-section and continued to have surgeries for on-going medical issues.
It wasn’t until my second pregnancy with medical complications, mourning sickness straight from hell, and the most exhausting anxiety that I entered into the reality of the woos of pregnancy.
That second pregnancy of mine was a hot mess. I had 3 ER visits, a mysterious false labor scare at 24 weeks, round ligament pain daily, morning sickness that eased up but still made me throw up every morning till very late in my pregnancy, and complete placenta previa till 36 weeks, which included some not so fun restrictions. On top of all this my oldest daughter broke her leg shortly after I was diagnosed with placenta previa and was in a three quarter leg cast for an entire month. Try juggling that and be on restrictions. It was hard to say the least.
For me I was done with pregnancy and was sure I would never get pregnant again but something in me knew that my sweet husband wasn’t ready, not even a little bit. He loved being a Dad and the thought of having two kids was hard for him to swallow. After getting through that pregnancy, being graced with a labor and delivery that was half the time as my first, and an epidural that was equivalent to a magical unicorn I decided, no matter how hard it would be, I would go through pregnancy one more time, but that’s it.
After about a year and half we decided we would start trying. Immediately I knew I needed to prepare myself for what was to come. I decided that no matter what, I was going to try and embrace this pregnancy and all it brought, good or bad, especially knowing it was my last.
Pregnancy can be hard, and there are going to be times when you don’t necessarily like it but what’s important is to try and not let it overwhelm you and steal your joy. So below are 9 ways I handle a pregnancy that I secretly hate.
REMIND YOURSELF IT DOESN’T LAST FOREVER
I know this one goes without saying but pregnancy doesn’t last forever, promise. At times it will seem like you will be the one woman who walks around pregnant for the rest of her life but that’s the hormones talking, trust me. When you’re in the middle of puking, haven’t kept food down for 3 days, your feet are so swollen you have to buy new shoes, or your back hurts so bad all you can do is lay in bed remember it will end. Try to let yourself see the light at the end of the tunnel.
ENJOY THE FACT THAT BABES CAN’T CRY IN THE WOMB
One time I made the comment that I was just ready for my pregnancy to be over and my friend said, “Well at least they can’t cry in the womb.” This is something I remind myself daily, especially since I have two other toddlers who can be at each other’s throat’s multiple times day. The thought of adding another little noise making person to the mix isn’t something I want to rush into, so it helps me cherish the moments this one is in the womb a little bit more.
FIND SOMETHING TO HELP DISTRACT YOU
If you don’t have a hobby right now may be a good time to start one. I have found that having something to organize like the blog and writing posts has helped me pass the time and take my mind off of the negative aspects of pregnancy. Maybe you have wanted to learn knitting, practice drawing, start painting, or even start your own blog. Start now and let it help distract you.
GET A MASSAGE, or 2, or EVEN 3
I love a good massage. No kids, no thinking, just pure relaxation. Some people have a pregnancy table you can lay on, you know the ones with the hole in the center. Well, from what I know from my massage therapist, those can be kind of uncomfortable. I have enjoyed pregnancy massages even when I would lay on my side, so don’t let being pregnant keep you from getting one.
This can be hard if you have multiple kids because, well, kids. I get it, but even so, try your hardest to get in some self-care every day, even if it’s only 15 minutes. If you need some ideas for free self-care activities, you can check out the post ’10 Simple & Free Self-Care Activities for Every Mom.’
STAY OFF GOOGLE AND PREGNANCY FORUMS
For the love of your sanity please stay away, FAR AWAY, from google and pregnancy forums. All they will do is make you worry, increase your anxiety, and just make you panic. If you are concerned about anything talk to your OB or midwife. If it is a true concern they will let you know. There’s no need to go worrying yourself over a bunch of useless information and stories that typically don’t end all that great.
DRINK MORE WATER
When you have a ton of annoying pregnancy symptoms the last thing you want is one more. For most woman that comes in the form of leg cramps and the big culprit is not drinking enough water. So make sure you drink a big glass or two of water every day minimum and you will most likely keep this symptom at bay.
BUY REAL MATERNITY CLOTHES
My first and second pregnancy I tried to just makeshift clothes to work for my pregnancy. My main reason was the fact that any piece of clothing labeled maternity is twice the price and me being my cheap self was unwilling to fork over the money. I wore stretchy pants, tights, and got regular shirts just one size up. For some reason I was unwilling to buy clothes I would only wear for a short time.
When I got pregnant the third time I decided it was time for real maternity clothes. This time I wanted to wear REAL pants. So, I bit the bullet and bought some clothes from motherhood maternity. Luckily, I also scored some great items at our local second-hand stores. Maternity clothes can be hard to find there but most of the time when you do find them, they are only gently used. Plus, my local Goodwill gets clothes and items from Target that are brand new and still have the tags on it, so you really can’t beat that.
What I love about maternity clothes is how they accent your belly in just the right way, as long as you buy the right size. So, do yourself a favor and splurge a little. You’re growing a human, the least you deserve are some clothes that fit you nicely.
Pregnancy can be amazing, I mean we are creating a freaking human being, but it brings with it some not so comfortable symptoms. It’s ok to not love your pregnancy. Trust me when I say, you’re not alone. Just remember that pregnancy doesn’t last forever, and as hard as it can be, try to enjoy it as much as you can.
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