Keeping Christ the center of your family can be hard, especially in today’s world where we get pulled in a million different directions. Each family member has their own schedule and responsibilities, you have soccer practice, swim lessons, full time jobs, school, meetings, dinners, shopping, and bills. So, how can you make sure to keep Christ the center of your family in the midst of all this chaos?
After my husband and I had kids we realized that it can be really easy to let yourself get swept away in the chaos, while putting God on the back burner without even realizing it. After our second daughter was born we decided it was time to pull ourselves out of the chaos and start making God a priority.
Most people probably think you have to do an in-depth devotional or pray for hours a day to feel as close to God as we do, but I’m here to tell you it’s way simpler than that. It wasn’t until we reflected on the previous year that we realized we had grown leaps in bounds in our relationships with God individually. In turn it was having a positive effect on every member of our family. This was such a sweet realization for us.
These 8 tips are exactly what we did over the course of that year. They may seem simple but trust me when I say they are life changing.
Go to Church Regularly
I mention this first because church can be the first thing we push to the back burner when we are living amongst the chaos. We work or deal with kids all week, do our grocery shopping and errands on Saturday, so by Sunday we are worn out and just want one day at home. We throw out church as if it isn’t important when it can be your biggest life line. Going regularly opens you heart and mind to receive more of God and what he has for you. It refreshes your heart and strengthens you to be able to tackle another week. Start making it a priority for your whole family.
Don’t Be Afraid to Change Churches
This may be hard for some people, depending on how long you have attended your current church. I get it. Leaving a church is like a break up. It can get messy and/or emotional, but sometimes it has to be done. If you aren’t growing in your walk with Christ at your current church something needs to change. Start exploring other churches until you find the one that feels like home and impacts your walk with Christ in magnificent ways. You will know when you find it. Each family member will talk about how much they liked it and your kids will be asking when they get to come back for children’s church.
For us this wasn’t a hard change. We had been attending our church at the time on and off for only a year. They knew us but not well. On the other hand, I have left a church I attended for almost 6 years and was a leader in. It defiantly ranks in the top 5 hardest things I have ever had to do in my life, but I can promise you it was the best and most impactful decision I have made to date.
Pray Before Every Meal & At Bedtime
When you have kids’ life is chaotic, in every way, shape, and form. This means remembering to pray, even semi-regularly, can be pretty difficult. If it’s been a while this may take some time till you build up a routine, but just keep at it until praying at dinner and bed becomes second nature. Post a note or make a sign that says ‘Pray’ and hang it by the kid’s bed’s and by the dining room table. This will hopefully be just the kind of subtle reminder you need.
Donate (Your Time or Money)
For me there is something so uplifting about being able to help out another person with some kind of donation, be it money, items, food, or my time. In Proverbs 11:25 it says, “A generous person will prosper, whoever refreshes others will also be refreshed.” When you help others without the expectation of personal gain you are experiencing the true heart of the father.
Being a giver sets an example for your kids. It shows them first hand to live like Jesus did. So, let them be involved in the process no matter the situation. If you are donating food let them help you cook the meal or pick out the items at the grocery store. If you are helping a friend clean their home let them come and help clean the kids room or pick up the yard. Teach them to be a blessing to others in any way they can.
When the Bible says you will prosper when you give, I don’t think they necessarily mean with money, it can, but I think it means you will prosper in your growth with Christ. The other day my oldest daughter helped me pick out clothes for a little girl that’s her age and size. The excitement on her face going through the clothes and shoes at Target brought me so much joy. In that moment my daughter was learning to give and be selfless. So easily she could have thrown a fit about the fact that we were buying this girl clothes and shoes, but she wasn’t getting anything. Instead she combed each and every shelf searching for the girls size and squealed with excitement when she actually found it. In this moment I realized that just by my kids seeing my husband and I give to and bless to others, it has taught them to do the same. That, my friends, is a HUGE parenting win!
Do Regular Quit Time
This is something that can be a struggle for most especially when you have kids. Most people will tell you to wake up an hour before your kids so that you have your own personal time to read, pray and drink your coffee. This would work wonders if my kids didn’t wake up at 5:30 am. Not Joking! So, waking up at 4:30 in the morning is just a flat out no for me. Heck if it works for you go for it. Do what fits your schedule and your family. Time of day isn’t the important part, it’s the quality of time you spend with God that matters.
If your kids are early risers like mine, I’m sorry if they are, its ok I have found the solution. Let them join in. When I started wanting to do quiet time in the mornings I told my daughter that every morning was going to be mommy’s Jesus time and if she wanted to join in she could. She can draw God a picture, sit and read a book about Jesus, lay down and pray or talk with God, or even use her blocks and make God something.
Some days are better than others, but I choose to just embrace it because doing my quiet time at night after they go to bed is out of the question. By this point in the day I’m exhausted and my brain is just flat out fried. In all honesty I love it because my daughter will wake me up in the best way possible. She quietly walks into my room, gently pats my shoulder, and softly says, “Mommy it’s time for God time you need to wake up.” Now if that doesn’t perk you up in the morning I don’t know what will.
Model Faith & Trust for Your Kids
Faith and trust are two things I learned as an adult and boy was it hard. My husband on the other hand lived a life full of faith. His family moved from state to state all throughout his childhood, all because God has told them to. So naturally faith and trust in God was a part of who he was and still is to this day. For me it was something I had to learn and boy, I’ll tell you, its hard.
We can tell you from experience this is something that is much easier to grab a hold of as a child than as an adult who has spent most of their life worrying about tomorrow and stressing about what is to come. Knowing how much this has impacted my husband’s life as a child and as an adult, we make it a point to model this for our kids whenever we can.
Talk about God with Your Kids Regularly
Whenever you can, take the opportunity to talk about God with your kids. You can tell them stories from the Bible, explain why God loves us and why we love him, teach them a lesson that God taught you. It doesn’t have to be a sit-down lesson, it can be a casual conversation. For example, one day when my daughter and I were making a craft, we created a rainbow and I decided to take the opportunity to tell her the Bible story behind the rainbow. These lessons reinforce our kids understanding of God and expands their knowledge of who he is and why we follow him.
The most important way to impact each of your children’s lives is to be present. Show them they are important by making time to be with them one on one, no distractions, no interruptions, just you and them. Doing this impacts their lives in many different ways. To me the most important is that they will know they don’t have to go searching for love or affection because they know their parents love them and so does God. They won’t be acting out as a cry for attention because the attention they need is already being met.
I understand life can be chaotic, but as harsh as this may sound, it’s still no excuse to make God sit on the back burner. He is your family’s life line. He is the glue that holds you all together. Not having Him at the center of your family is like trying to build a house with wood and duct tape. One good wind and the whole thing is going to come crashing down. I don’t know about you, but that’s not a house I would want to live in.
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