How many times have you thought to yourself that your life has passed you by and it’s just too late to chase your dreams? Probably more times than you would like to admit.
Many times, we get lost in the day to day life of being a mom and an unfortunate side effect is that we set our dreams and desires to the side. We pour our whole self into being a mom and keeping our family running that we forget that our dreams are still important.
When I became a mom, I realized very quickly that it was and is drastically different than what I had envisioned it to be. Not only was it different physically but the way I felt about it wasn’t that magical sunshine and rainbows feeling most of us expect to experience. Instead I felt exhausted and drained day after day after day.
After my second child was born and close to her 1-year birthday I had the realization that “mom” and “wife” didn’t have to be my only two titles. I realized that just because other women feel 100% satisfied in motherhood doesn’t mean that I’m any less of a mom for wanting more. I’m a different person, and so are you. So, if being a mom isn’t the only title you want in life, then I’m here to tell you that it’s completely ok.
Will everyone understand why you want more? Probably not. Will you get judged for chasing your dreams? Most likely. But guess what? WHO CARES! I can promise you that no matter what kind of dream you chase or things you try to accomplish or do in your life you will NEVER have the support of everyone.
You will always have a group of people that support and encourage you on your journey, but you will also have people that diminish, degrade, judge, and shame you and your work. That’s a fact and the sooner you realize that the better off you will be in the future. You just have to get a little tough skin and, in the words of Taylor Swift, shake it off. Their comments and opinions aren’t important.
AGE IS NOT AN ISSUE
The number one issue people have about trying to chase after their dreams is their age. We instantly think that since we are past our “prime” then there’s no way our dreams are even remotely possible. Well, I’m here to squash that myth with cold hard facts. Below is a list of famous people who achieved success later in life. So, don’t just take my word for it, see the proof for yourself. These people didn’t let their age stand in the way of them and their dreams and neither do we.
- Samuel L. Jackson, actor, didn’t get his big break until the age of 43
- Stan Lee, creator of the Marvel comics, didn’t write his first comic until age 39.
- Julia Child didn’t release her first cookbook until the age of 50.
- Vera Wang didn’t enter the world of fashion until the age of 40.
- Martha Stewart didn’t publish her first book till age 41 and didn’t launch Martha Stewart Living until the age of 48.
- Colonel Sanders didn’t franchise KFC until the age of 62.
- Susan Boyle didn’t audition and get her big break with America’s Got Talent until she was 47.
- Alan Rickman, actor who played Snape in Harry Potter, didn’t get his big break until he was 41 and had a role in the movie Die Hard with Bruce Willis.
- Henry Ford found success with the first released Model T at the age of 45.
- Donald Fisher and his wife Doris didn’t open The Gap until he was 41.
- Laura Ingalls Wilder, author of the Little House series, didn’t publish her first book until the age of 65.
I can honestly say that learning about the people listed above made me realize that any and every time I said I was too old for X, Y, or Z was just complete and utter baloney.
THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY
In today’s world there really isn’t a valid excuse you can come up with when it comes to how to chase your dreams. If your dream requires that you need to go back to school for a degree or at least a couple classes, then there are a ton of online and night schools for you to choose from. You can even go at your own pace if you’re raising kids and/or working a full-time job.
Even finances can’t be used as an excuse. There are a ton of scholarships available as well as a multitude of financial aid opportunities out there. You may have to write a paper to apply for them, but if it’s one step closer to your dreams than it’s totally worth it.
If your dream doesn’t require school but requires a little money to get started, you can start saving little by little or put it on a credit card and pay it off slowly. When I decided to finally go after my desire to start my blog I knew that I was going to need help and lots of it, so I decided to make an investment and bought a, no so cheap, blog course.
It may have been a lot for me at the time, but it was 100% worth it. It took the guess work out of everything and lined out the whole process for me step by step. In one year my blog went from the faintest of ideas to fully launched and the beginnings of an email list.
It doesn’t matter what your dreams are, there will always be a way for you to accomplish them, you just have to search for it and step outside your comfort zone.
YOU CAN DO MORE THAN YOU THINK
When it comes to going after our dreams, the biggest obstacle for us to overcome is ourselves. We are constantly doubting that we will be able to accomplish our goals or that we have what it takes. We read one bad review or comment and we let it consume us. We set goals in place and the moment we don’t reach one we throw in the towel and call it quits.
It’s time for you to start believing in yourself and who God created you to be. I firmly believe that the dreams and desires in your heart were placed there by Him and that you deserve for them to be your reality.
If you need some help setting goals the correct and most effective way, then check out my other posts below for some tips and guidance.
Your dreams are important, and they deserve to be gone after no matter what they are or where you’re at in life. I want you to imagine your life 5 years from now and how different it would be if you started chasing your dreams. What would it look like? Where would you be living? What would your stress level be at? How would your family look? What would your marriage look like? What about your relationships with God and those around you?
Well, I’m here to tell you that you deserve that vision to be your reality. So, stop with the excuses and take one giant leap out of your comfort zone.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
-H. Jackson Brown Jr., P.S. I Love You
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